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Tuesday, October 07, 2008

I just don't know

Why is it that you can care about someone so much that you can look past all of their faults, all of their wrongs, all of their empty promises and still love them? Still be taken in by them? Still see that person that you know deep down they really are?

And, at the same time, be so angry with them? Be so deeply hurt by them, that you don't know if forgiving is even an option, much less forgetting? But you entertain that thought anyway.

Is it just being human that makes you feel that way, or just stupidity?

It's hard to ask yourself those questions. It's even harder to answer them. You look around and wonder, why can all these other people make things work, but we can't? Why are they so happy? And, while the truth is those people are not always rainbows and butterflies, but you can't help but see it that way.

I guess, at some point, you have to just listen to what your heart tells you and do what's best for you. You hope that you make the right decision, though, only time will tell.

It's just a leap of faith. I read a quote today that said "life is not about waiting for the storm to pass, it's about learning to dance in the rain".

15 comments:

sterlingirl said...

Love that quote! Keep your chin up. Love you!

southernintherockies said...

Hi! I could have written this post myself. I've been living by my heart for a very long time. Things are good, but you know how much I have endured. Do what is right for you.: ) Loving the quote. Missing you.

Sherry said...

That quote is awesome and yep it's a good one. Follow your heart, seriously. Yep it will be hard to "forget" but look at it this way, that's the past. Live for the day take one day at a time, build on that day and most importantly follow your heart and girl do what is going to make YOU happy. You come first, will you be happy to follow your heart? If so go for it!!!

Happy Working Mom said...

That's a great quote! And you're 100% right...nobody has a perfect life - even if it looks that way on the outside, the inside can be a very different story.

Good luck...I know it can't be easy.

Katie said...

I think it IS just part of being human. You really don't know what you can endure, or what your limits are, or what's worth it in the long run, until you have experienced it firsthand. Just follow your heart and let your head give you advice.
:-)

"J" said...

Hang in there sister!!!! It will get better!!! I sooooooooooooooooooooo GET what you are saying!!!!!

Deb said...

That's a great quote.

It's true what they say though, love is deaf, dumb and blind.
I hope you get through the tough times your having sooner rather than later.

CassJustCurious said...

I had this post in draft this morning and then deleted it because I just felt like saying it was admitting that things are just not okay and that is such a scary admission sometimes. That quote may have just turned my day around. Thank you.

phonemom said...

I don't know, but even when it looks beautiful on the outside, it's usually got some scars inside. One of the scariest and hardest thing about loving someone is that because you love them they can hurt you and make you more angry than anyone else in the world.
I vote for going with your heart. But my outlook has always been to try and never look back and wish I'd only tried harder (or gotten out sooner) You never know the answer when you're in the middle of it.
Good luck!

Memphis Steve said...

I like that quote.

Women never forget the hurts. I don't know exactly why, but I used to know. Anyway, you'll remember the hurt, but if you love this person then you'll move past it anyway. It'll come up again later, when you're really mad. I wish I knew what to tell you as far as forgiving them goes. My wife never forgives anything. She just stores it away to fire at me later on. It isn't healthy. If you decide to forgive then do yourself a favor and forget it. Let it go. Don't store it away for later. It'll hurt you both.

Kellie said...

That is an awesome quote and one I need to adapt in my own life.

It's incredibly hard to forget. The forgiving part takes time, but CAN happen. You almost, in my opinion, have to be able to do both. Not necessarily forget it entirely, but move it to a part of your brain where it won't be brought up all the time.

In the end, only you can decide what is best. Let me know if you need anything :)

Me said...

You will never forget the wrong that has been done to you. In time the pain will become less emotional. We all do this, at times we have hope for a situation that really does not deserve hope. at times we give the people who hurt us the most more love then they even deserve. I really believe that it is a huge human flaw, not stupidity but being human with emotions that do this to us. Yes confusing. Im not one to talk to much, you know my realtionship and how screwie it really is. Just remember how much love your surrounded with everyday.
And let Kaylie know she can come have a slumber party with me soon.

Heather said...

Great quote. And so true. You need to do what makes you happy and what is right for your family. Hang in there.

SJ said...

What a great quote! And girl, we are human, that's why...

Steph said...

I love, love, love that quote. I've been trying to live by it lately. But sometimes it's damn hard.